'.... a conditioned reflex which may persist for the rest of his life'
​Berne (1972)

Sometimes we can feel really frustrated because at some level we have a sense of 'how did I get here again?'

Feelings and behaviours from our past, used to get us what we needed because our real feelings were not acceptable in our family (the first team we belong to!).  We receive messages from the big people in our lives about how to be in the world and from that young age, they are repeated so often that we think they are real.

As an adult, we employ those behaviours - and they get us into difficulties to a great or lesser degree with those close to us as well as our colleagues.  These behaviours keep us stuck in an unhappy place - however, awareness of them can in itself release us from that self-defeating place.

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Possible objectives:

• ​To understand the difference between an authentic feeling, and a racket feeling
• To examine how rackets develop
• To devise an alternative action/behaviour
• To explore substitute feelings
• To learn how to spot in others when a racket is in play
• To learn how to recognise it in ourselves - and what to do about it
• To identify the main TA writers on the theories